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Saturday
29 April 2000

 

 

 

 

2 11 am pdt   [ to the W Hotel ]

Tonight is the second night in a row I have gotten home before my dad. Sheesh!

Jo and I have been friends since we took an art class together at Berkeley. We both stood out as the nerdy girls in the class. She just moved down here to sunny Southern CA, so we made plans to go this evening.

We were supposed to do dinner and a movie, but that evolved into meeting at some bar in Westwood with one of her high-school friends.

"Wilshire to Glendon, make a left. Right on Weyburn; left on Hilgaurd. It's called the W Hotel."

I dressed up in my favorite men's slacks. The look was sharp. "You are a goddess," I said to myself in the mirror.

Parking in Westwood is always a nightmare, but so be it. This place was jam packed with a line far out the door. I was indeed surprised. So I'm chatting with people in line. The guy in front of me offered the doorman $20 to let him in, with no success. He's moaning and groaning about wanting to know someone who can get him in. In front of him are two guys clearly not from LA. There are making all sorts of false generalizations and claiming Nick Cage is inside. The three girls in back of me are giggling that Leo DiCaprio might show up. They think the spot Natalie Portman. I try not to roll my eyes in front of them, but I make no effort to contain my laughter.

I sent Jo a rescue me vibe, and suddenly she appears at the door. The doorman doesn't want to let me in, even though I have now walked to the front of the line. I'm fine with that. I just stand there catching up with Jo. "Is it just you?" he interrupts.

"Yes."

"Then go on in."

I know the people I was in line with are pissed.

Jo's friend was fantastic, though she awed me in having gotten married at 21. I got more and more ridiculous as the night went on, making lewd comments about using men. I began to tell lies. "My name is Robin." "I'm going home to Redondo Beach." "I went to high school with Jo. Everyone calls her Goddess. It's been her nickname for years."

A guy was walking around in a bathrobe. He had red vines in his pocket and I ate five. That was wonderfully surreal.

I had Jo and her friend rolling on the floor with my absurdity. I met one interesting guy. He didn't want to tell me what he did for a living. Shall I call him Special K? I shall.

I kept waving at guys or dancing with myself barefoot. Special K said I was dangerous. I liked that.

The evening was long, and I spent the greater portion of it making rude comments about women's outfits. I told Jo that all the men there were just toys for her to play with. She didn't buy it. I could feel I was on a roll.

"Special K, come back to me!" I said out loud. I told Jo I wanted to say good-bye to him, but he was nowhere to be found. I sent out vibes to him to return to me. Still no luck. I made one round to look. I wanted to see him again. I gave up. Suddenly, by the door, there he was. "Will you have dinner with me sometime?"

"But you have a boyfriend..."

"I don't mean in a come on way. I mean in a friend way."

"That might be awkward."

"How about I give you my number and if you feel comfortable, you call me, and if not, not biggie." He was making me work for no reason in particular.

"What do you like to do?"

"I like to horseback ride. I love to go hiking; I live by the State Park." I point in no direction in particular. His eyes light up. "Would you like to go hiking instead?"

"Sure!"

"Do you have a pen?"

"I said I'd go get one. "Will you be here when I get back?" I smiled coyly. I don't remember his response. Anyway, he wasn't. I was shocked. Not a "How dare he do that to me!" shock, but rather a "How rude!" shock.

"I think he bailed," Jo said. Ok. We were out the door and half way down the stairs. "Maybe I should give J----- my number," Jo pauses.

"Do you want to?" I asked. She nodded. We were back inside. I practically walked into Special K. "You left!"

"Nature called," he offered. I'll never know if that was true. I handed him a slip of paper with my name, number, and the word hiking.

We shall see what happens...

 

 

 

 

9 06 am pdt   [ marriage ]

I believed a myth: one is supposed to find a person who works for them, and then marry that person and have a family. I want a family. I want kids. I've found the person I want to marry. And suddenly I realize this is a myth. I mean, why? Who says I am supposed to do these things? Some people say it is a matter of timing, but I think that makes light of the issue. For me, it is a redefining of one of my life goals. I mean, I have to reshape my entire vision of my future every time I begin thinking about this one.

I am a strapping 22 years old. I don't want to be married now. I have always said I wanted to be married at the 30. My vision was always to have some wildly wicked dating adventures throughout my 20's, and then find someone I live at around 25-27. We date a while, then live together, them marry and make babies. You're thinking it sounds too planned, huh? I simply attached numbers to the expectations I assume most people have...

Let me just say that redefining what you want from your life is a very big job. It wears me out, so I have to remember to go to bed early tonight.

Did I tell you I want to take up bike riding? And on another unrelated note, I am getting mighty tired of people asking me why I am happy, as though something is wrong. Life is grand! Does that really require an explanation?!?

 

 

 

 

two years ago today: "...it seems that putting up with the artistic temperament can often pay off in the long run."

one year ago today: "I can do this. I can do this, can't I?"

 

 

 

 

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