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Sunday
10 October 99
7 47 pm edt
My man is making his way back to the
Bay Area as I type. Our weekend of love was wonderful.
Friday and Saturday nights involved family dinners, and we were
lazy bums most of the time, but last night we did go out to a bar in the
village for a friend of a friend's birthday party. I met a bouncer
named Steven who is also a cop, which I thought to be a bizarre
combination.
9 54 pm edt
I have been reading Original
Sin by P. D. James. It is a wonderful murder mystery, the
ending of which I have not an inkling of. On last read, I came
across the following quote from one of the characters:
"He knew... that a constant uncritical kindness could in its
subtle condescention be as oppressive to the loved one as cruelty or
neglect."
I was wondering if I agreed with this statement -- if such a thing was
true. I think parents can be wonderfully sucessful with "a constant
uncritical kindness", but perhaps such a thing cannot work in an intimate
relationship. Perhaps both parties need to feel more benevolent at
some time. I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with an
eneven relationship, but you can't have one party that completely lacks
some aspect. I tease Matthew
much more than he does me (because that is how we relate in my family), but he does get me from time to
time.